“Some people are afraid of what they might find if they try to analyze themselves too much, but you have to crawl into your wounds to discover where your fears are. Once the bleeding starts, the cleansing can begin.”
What Is Existential Crisis?
As the name implies, existential crisis has something to do with our existence. More specifically, it’s a period of re-examining our lives’ meaning, purpose, or values. These “big” questions are usually triggered by a traumatic event we’ve been through, which has shattered our current beliefs about our worlds. Faced with the fleeting nature of life, we realize that we don’t have control over many things that happen to us—which, admittedly, is not a comforting thought. Anxiety builds up and we end up spiralling further down and down the rabbit hole. It’s important to note that not every turning point in life leads to an existential crisis. Stress is often a normal part of the everyday and in many cases, it’s temporary and it passes. But when it lingers longer and makes us feel as everything is hollowed out of meaning, and when we start questioning our place in life and the reason for being, we can certainly say that we have fallen under the dark spell of the mental and physical distress, known as existential crisis.Causes of Existential Crisis
As I already mentioned, existential crisis is not triggered by ordinary events which may lead to more-or-less “normal” levels of stress and anxiety—such as starting a new job, marriage, having kids, giving presentations at work or studying for a test in college. Distress becomes deeper and darker when we undergo a major trauma, loss or an ordeal. According to a piece in Healthline, possible causes of existential crisis can be any of the following:((Healthline: What Is an Existential Crisis, and How Do I Break Through It?))- Guilt about something
- Losing a loved one in death, or facing the reality of one’s own death
- Feeling socially unfulfilled
- Dissatisfaction with self
- History of bottled up emotions
Symptoms of Existential Crisis
Existential crisis is a dark period and can take a serious toll on both our mental and physical state. Someone who is deep down the depression road can have a heightened sense of:((Depression Alliance: Existential Depression: The Mental Illness of the Gifted & Talented))- An intense or obsessive interest in the bigger meaning of life and death. The interest in exploring this may override a person’s enjoyment and engagement with other day-to-day activities.
- Extreme distress, anxiety, and sadness about the society they live in, or the overall state of the world.
- A belief that changes in anything are both impossible and futile.
- Increasingly becoming, and feeling, disconnected, isolated, and separate from other people.
- Cutting ties with other people because they feel like connections with others are meaningless or shallow and they are on a completely different level.
- Low motivation and energy levels to do anything they would normally do.
- Questioning the purpose, point or meaning of anything, and everything, in life.
- Suicidal thoughts and feelings.
How to Cope with Existential Crisis
Feelings of constant distress can be daunting, to state the least -- a true happiness-thief. So, how do you save yourself from the gloominess and the greyness you feel inside? Luckily, we are far from choice-less, psychologists tell us. In fact, there are many things that we can do to help ourselves when we start questioning the purpose of our existence and the meaning of it all. One thing that’s worth mentioning as well is that existentialists prescribe that we should learn to live and cope with the anxiety vs. eliminating it. They view even this deep distress as a normal part of life. Therefore, their strategies aim at acknowledging and managing the sunless thoughts and feelings, rather than trying to force them into positive ones. Here are some additional ways in which we can help ourselves through such distressing periods.1. Inject Some Meaning Back into Your Life
The search for meaning is a universal one—we all want our lives to matter and leave something behind after we are gone. In my previous post, What’s the Meaning of Life? A Guide to Help You Live with Purpose, I wrote about how each one of us can create their own meaning in life. It’s through compassion and care for our wellbeing, connecting with the world and making ourselves useful.2. Keep a Gratitude Journal
Although not ground-breaking, this idea has many proven benefits. Reminding ourselves of what we are lucky enough to have achieved, can do wonders for our mental health and will quell our anxieties.3. Don’t Expect of Yourself to Have All the Answers
Quite often, when we mull over the big questions of our existence and purpose, we put pressure on ourselves to find the answers right away. We feel angst and disappointment with ourselves and possibly pangs of envy with those who have it all figured out. But remember, you don’t have to find a solution to everything. Just re-discover the things that are meaningful to you and make you happy. That’s all.4. Touching and Feeling Connected
One of the prescribed ways to overcome feelings of existential isolation is through touch.((Davidson Institute: Dabrowski’s Theory and Existential Depression in Gifted Children and Adults)) For instance, practicing daily hugs can help alleviate anxiety and create a sense of belonging. The idea comes from research on mother-infant bonding and how youngsters thrive when they the physical warmth of their mothers. So, when you feel down, hug away. There are many other ways to cope with the severe distress and depression which often accompany an existential crisis. Keeping yourself busy, getting involved in helping others, learning to let go, living in the present moment are all excellent tactics to help you get out of the darkness you may feel enveloped in. The main idea behind all these techniques is to find your own reasons again for being and to re-affirm your worth.The Bright Side of Existential Crisis
The influential Polish psychiatrist Kazinierez Dabrowski developed a theory he called Positive disintegration (in the mid-1960s).((Positive Psychology Program: Theory of Positive Disintegration 101: On Becoming Your Authentic Self)) It’s based on the notion that anxiety and distress are necessary for growth and development. Another aspect of the theory relates to gifted individuals. They are different and special, Dabrowski believed, as they are sensitive, highly emotional, intellectual, imaginational, curious, and prone to anxiety. Therefore, they are also the ones who are more likely to go through an existential crisis and depression. These people also have greater “developmental potential,” he asserted. What this means is that they look at the world through a different lens—they have better awareness of themselves and others, they try to understand and make sense of everything around them. But they are also often the lonely outcasts and the restless souls (Many great writers as Earnest Hemingway, Virginia Wolfe, Charles Dickens to name a few, have been known to have gone through an existential upheaval). So, there is, clearly, a bright side to the dark feelings that accompany an existential crisis. For one thing, it means that if you are going through one, you are likely a very gifted, intellectual and sensitive individual. More importantly, though, such condition is highly treatable. There are many paths you can take to emerge from the bleakness you feel inside.Final Thoughts
Finding meaning in everything we do, day in and out, is not an easy undertaking. It’s normal to feel distressed when you lose your ways or when you go through a major trauma and loss. And it’s not uncommon, when faced with such deep and joyless emotions, that you take a step back and re-evaluate your life. Because it is often through pain that we emerge stronger and more resilient. No matter the challenges that fate throws our way, there is always a reason to keep going forward. You just must find it. It’s as Albert Einstein told us:“Curiosity has its own reason for existence.”You never really know what exciting things may wait for you around the corner; and that is the beauty of it all.
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